I have a 16 yr old son that is dating a girl that has told him she was 14. When i spoke with her grandmother she stated that she was 12, the girl denies this and sticks with the age of 14. When i spoke with this lady she stated that "these 12 yr olds dont need to be dating at all" so this leads me to believe that this girl has lied to her family about my sons age as well what kind of trouble can my son get into for her childish acts? Even if ahe is 14 yrs old it is still illegal in the state of NC for them to be together and having any kind of sexual contact right?
The age a person can no longer be a "victim" of statutory rape is 16.
At 16, your son may consent to sexual activity with someone his own age or older without violating North Carolina Criminal laws; however, he can NOT "legally" engage in sexual contact with anyone younger than 16 years of age. At 12, 13, 14, or 15 year old, a person is legally incapable of consenting to sexual contact. Sexual contact would be considered non-consensual whether they say yes or not.
A different, more serious set of laws apply if the girl is 12 (one of those laws is below).
If your son is having sexual contact with this girl whether she is 12 or 14, he is in violation of North Carolina state laws and unless he is an emancipated minor, both he and his parents are at risk for legal troubles and more.
§ 14‑27.4. First‑degree sexual offense.
(a) A person is guilty of a sexual offense in the first degree if the person engages in a sexual act:
(1) With a victim who is a child under the age of 13 years and the defendant is at least 12 years old and is at least four years older than the victim; or
(2) With another person by force and against the will of the other person, and:
a. Employs or displays a dangerous or deadly weapon or an article which the other person reasonably believes to be a dangerous or deadly weapon; or
b. Inflicts serious personal injury upon the victim or another person; or
c. The person commits the offense aided and abetted by one or more other persons.
(b) Any person who commits an offense defined in this section is guilty of a Class B1 felony. (1979, c. 682, s. 1; 1979, 2nd Sess., c. 1316, s. 6; 1981, c. 106, ss. 3, 4; 1983, c. 175, ss. 5, 10; c. 720, s. 4; 1994, Ex. Sess., c. 22, s. 3.)