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Is it legal for a 17 year old to move in with her boyfriend?
Illinois
Is it legal for a 17yr old girl that is now living with her parents to move out and move in with her boyfriend without the parents consent? and can they press charges?
In the state of Illinois, a seventeen year old may legally consent to sexual contact, meaning, it's not likely any charges for sexual assault of a minor would be in your boyfriends future; however, the age of majority in Illinois is still 18. Until you are 18 years of age, (or you are emancipated) you are a "minor" in legal terms. This means that your parents still have legal authority, responsibility, and accountability for the welfare and control of their minor child until the age of 18.
They are within their authority to pursue legal action, where necessary, to maintain control until their minor child legally becomes an adult. Whether they will use that authority is something only you could know. Some parents do, and some don't. If they are motivated, there are probably a few ways they could make legal trouble for your boyfriend if you were to move in with him.
Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 09/30/2011 - 19:05.
so im 14 going onto 15. theres this guy thats like my dream guy. hes absolutely everything i look for in a guy but theres one problem hes 19 going onto 20. dont judge by the age. if you were in the same situation im sure you couldnt help yourself. Im pretty mature for my age and most people think im 16 not 14. anyways we live in illinois. we arent planning to have sex. we much rather wait till im older and for marriage because we are the same religion and as most people know its a sin to have sex before marriage therefore we dont want to do it. anyways what i want to know is there any law that says he cant date me or way he can be charged??
Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Mon, 04/25/2011 - 12:37.
ok i was 32 and she was 17 we got together and i had to move out of the state to colorado she moved in with me a few yrs later and we had 2 beautiful kids together now im 44 and shes 28 she got into pills really bad and now we are not together and now she is threatening to take the kids and turn me in for having sex with her at age 17 to get the kids can she do this or because we moved in together and had kids does it matter anymore
Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sat, 04/16/2011 - 14:10.
Can My Mom Press Charges On My Boyfriend who Is 21 If We Have Sex ? And Can Me And My Boyfriend Move In Together Without Her Persmission even Though I WIll Be 18 In September Of This Year?
Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Mon, 03/07/2011 - 20:05.
Ok I'm 20years old and she is 16 and her mom said I can date her she use to let her spend the night with me and me spend the night with her and we have had sex. But now her mom said we can not date so she sent her to one of her friends house so I can't see her and she sid that if we are seen together she will call the cops but her mom tells her she hates and calls her a hoe and just mean to her can I get her out of her moms house and move her in with me if so how do I go about doing this? And we are in Florida.
Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sat, 01/01/2011 - 17:10.
I'm 16 and my fiancée is currently 23. We have been together for 2 years and my parents were okay with it. My mother used to let me stay the night with him so often that I practically lived with him. He lost his job lost October and had to move in with his grandparents. After he moved my parents decided to change their minds and say we couldn't be together. I was wondering if it is okay for me to move in with him when I turn 17 in May. Could my parents call the cops and get him arrested?
Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Mon, 11/15/2010 - 09:09.
I am a 22 year old female is it ok by law that i am sexually active with a 16 year old male......its ok with his mother but can i get in trouble for it
Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 11/04/2010 - 17:49.
im currently 16 but will be 17 shortly, the man i love is 21. my parents found out that we were seeing eachother by overhearing a phone call. they found out that while he was 20 we stayed at a hotel together. we did NOT have sex. he picked me up from a party for there was drinking going on that i didnt want to be a part of and he looks out for me and doesnt want me doing that either, though he does. when my father found out about the situation he wanted to press charges. i live in the state of kansas and was wondering what charges could be made. currently my mom has agreed that he had treated me better then anyone else and is not completly opposed to him. she talked my dad out of pressing charges but im not sure if that will hold up if we see eachother as more then friends again. for that i was wondering what the laws were for when im 17 and with him while hes 21.
Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sun, 10/17/2010 - 20:22.
I am 19 years old my girlfriend is 17 she is going to turn 18 on january 4. She lives in illinois but she wants to move in with me here in california, but we dont have her moms permission. If she moves in with me here in California, is there any way her Mother can press charges against me, or can she legally stop her from moving in with me? What about if we get married in another state where is allowed without parents concent at our age?
Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Wed, 09/22/2010 - 13:42.
I am 14 years old, and I will be 15 in 2 months. My boy friend is currently 18 and will be 19 in 3 months. I am not supposed to have any contact with him because of my mother. This is the 3rd time ive gotten caught talking to him. and the second time ive had EVERYTHING taken from me. but he says he still wants to date even if we have to wait until im 17. She threatens to have him arrested for just touching me. We have kissed but i heard of there isnt a 5 year age difference than he cant get in trouble. and theres not. The only thing he can get in trouble for is if we had sex. and we havent done anything whatsoever. is there any reason he will get in trouble?
Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sat, 12/18/2010 - 17:49.
It is illegal for anything what so ever to happen if he's above 18 and your below that. And by the way, my sister secretly dated a 20 year old when she was 14. He raped her.
Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Wed, 07/07/2010 - 17:15.
Im 16 and my fiance is 24 but my parents are ok with it and even agreed to us getting married 11 days after my 17th birthday. my parents are the type of people who believe sex before mairrage is a sin and ive already been sexually active since i was 14. i want to be able to stay the night with him but i dont know how to bring the discussion up to my parents... we'll be married in 7 1/2 months anyways... any advice?
Submitted by yesenia (not verified) on Sun, 05/02/2010 - 19:55.
i'm currently 16 and my boyfrind is 22 and we want to get married but i'm not even allow to see him because my mom says she'll call the police because of his age but in my oppinion i donn't see nothing wronge with it and i do want to be with him. what can i do to be with him?
Submitted by Amelia (not verified) on Mon, 06/22/2009 - 23:19.
My girlfriend is 17 and I'm trying to get her too move in with my mum and me. my mum doesn't care. However, her mum hates me. I wanted to know if it was at all possible for my girlfriend to move in without getting all three of us into trouble with the law.
There are four children at my girl's house, herself being the eldest. Her mum comes home most of the time drunk off her every loving face and passes out in front of her young children. As the eldest, she gets blamed for everything while her sister, 15 runs the streets and does as she pleases. Please, if there is anyway that I can have my girlfriend safe in my home, let me know at (email address hidden) It would be much appreciated.
Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 10/16/2008 - 03:25.
Im a 17 year old female, I'm dating a man who is 38.
To make it short, my dad doesn't like his age.
But as long as i don't bring him around its "okay".
So when i go out at night to sleep over at his house and i come back he's all angry at me, yelling at me that he was "worried". He tells me even to lie to him about where im going as long as he knows im out, but when i do ask to spend the night out he gets all mad and tells me im lying and says no.
I've looked up the laws in Illinois, but if my mother knows where i am and im just spending the night out can he get in trouble? i don't think my dad would call the police he would more likely try to fight the guy, which is bad because m y boyfriend is really protective of me and himself, in that case can i call the police on my father?
i just need help, is there anyway i can just move out without there being reprecautions? I just don't want anybody to get in the way of the good things i have, sometimes it seems like my father is just trying to take my happiness away instead of keeping me safe, because he already knows im safe, and he already knows where i am.
The age of majority, and age of consent do not match up legally in most states. In Illinois, the age of majority (the age a person is legally considered an adult) is 18. The age of consent (the age a person can no longer be a victim of statutory rape) is 17. Legally, you are still a minor under the charge, care, and responsibility of your parents. You can not legally enter into binding agreements without your parents giving permission or consent. This is why most minor's can not move out unless someone else (an adult) is signing a lease or rental agreement.
In your situation, it sounds like more of an issue of a parent accepting that their 17 year old daughter has become emotionally and sexually involved with an adult male who is 21 years older. This would be unacceptable and difficult for 99.9% of all parents and especially Dads who love and care about their daughters future. The fact of the matter is, your boyfriend is in a stage of life more closely aligned to the stage of life your parents are in, and at 17, you are in a completely different stage of life. Not having any facts on your situation, I will only say this. "Love" can often be disguised as infatuation at the age of 17. Certainly, it may boost any 38 year old males ego to have a young girl/teen on his arm. What you might ask yourself is this: Why would a 38 year old man who has come through his high school years, teens, college, probably been in a few relationships, maybe even has been married and has kids of his own, find himself in love with a 17 year old girl? Is he not capable of finding a woman in his own age bracket to be interested in him? At 17, you may be very mature, but the fact remains, you have not experienced even half the life your boyfriend has. If he truly cares about you, he will allow you to experience some life and actually become a legal adult before encouraging you or influencing you to put your relationship with your parents in turmoil by taking actions in the name of Love that can potentially drive a wedge between you and people who will always be the most important people in your life. Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear, but to most mature adults who are near the same age as your boyfriend and in the same stages of life, may see this as a little suspicious that this man is not mature enough to handle or attract women nearer to his own age.
We don’t generally give relationship advice here. We do legal research. It's obvious that if you are 17, in less than a year you will be 18 and will be legally able to make all your own decisions with the same legal power as any other adult in the state of Illinois. Being 17 is a tough age. We see so many teens with no parents to support them and guide them in situations like this. It is refreshing to hear from teens whose parents are engaged and interested in their child's lives. You are lucky in many respects to have parents who care enough to state an objection. It would be beneficial for you to try to understand that any Dad, who has loved, supported and protected his daughter for the first 17 years of her life will have a difficult time letting go. In this situation, you may not get support from your Dad or Mom for this relationship due to the fact that the age difference is so great and the outcome may not be what you expect. It may be best to wait until you are a legal adult before making a decision to move in with the 38 year old. Emotionally, being an adult and making adult choices doesn’t magically happen when you turn 18. It’s just a number that legally makes it your right.
so im 14 going onto 15. theres this guy thats like my dream guy. hes absolutely everything i look for in a guy but theres one problem hes 19 going onto 20. dont judge by the age. if you were in the same situation im sure you couldnt help yourself. Im pretty mature for my age and most people think im 16 not 14. anyways we live in illinois. we arent planning to have sex. we much rather wait till im older and for marriage because we are the same religion and as most people know its a sin to have sex before marriage therefore we dont want to do it. anyways what i want to know is there any law that says he cant date me or way he can be charged??