20 year old and a 16 year old


I am currently twenty years old; soon to be 21 in April. I have known a girl, who is now 16, for about four years. I am a citizen of Washington, but live in Oregon for college and she used to live in Washington with me, but is now in Oregon as well. Can she and I have a nonsexual relationship while still abiding by Oregon laws?

The age of consent for sexual contact in the State of Oregon is 18. The laws are well defined stating that a person under the age of 18 is "legally" not capable of giving consent. As long as no sexual relations are taking place between the 21 year old and the 16 year old while in the State of Oregon, the law is not being violated; however, the 21 year old could potentially be taking some legal risks if contemplating a living arrangement with a minor, without having any legal authority as the minors guardian. If a 16 year old minor has not been emancipated by a court (legally making them an adult) the minor remains under the legal authority, control and is the legal responsibilty of the parent or guardian. If the minor is going to live with the 21 year old, it should be done with parental or guardian consent; otherwise, even if no sexual contact is occuring, the 21 year old could be taking some risk for legal action on a range of laws (excluding sexual offense laws) if violated while the minor is living in the home. For example, contributing to the delinquency of a minor, endangering the welfare of a minor, providing alcohol to a minor, etc...

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 12/15/2011 - 07:58.

I'm 20 years old and in love with a 15 year old boy. I don't expect anyone to understand because they don't know him. I turn 21 in March and he turns 16 in april. we have no been sexual at all and are going to remain that way but his parents said if i talk to him they'll call the police. I don't know if there's anything they could do considering i haven't done anything sexual with him. But we live in Pennsylvania and the age of consent is 16 here, so when he's 16 if we sneak around to see each other, could they call the police if they found out? would i go to jail?

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Mon, 02/07/2011 - 15:59.

If you want to work or go to school in the Portland OR area, but still wish to remain a couple with this girl, you two would be far better off living in Vancouver, WA, where the age of consent is 16. This way you can have the best of both worlds. While it might be a bit inconvenient if you work in Portland and live across the river in Vancouver, this will offset the far greater problem of facing statutory rape charges in the future.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Tue, 07/06/2010 - 15:37.

If the girl who is 15 calls the guy who is 20 and they want to have a relationship is that legal or can the guy be pressed charges?

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sun, 06/27/2010 - 12:07.

If the girl in question is mature enough to handle a relationship, and if you are a piece of shit douche bag, then youll be fine as long as theres no sex or anything until she's eighteen

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 02/04/2010 - 17:02.

My good friend (20/m) was arrested yesterday in Oregon because the girl (16) decided to press charges a year after they broke up (they were together for a year) and he will most likely get 3 years of jail for it. He is in jauil right now even tho it was completely consentual at the time. She might like you now but sex with a minor gives the kid and their parents your entire life in their hands if they decide to turn you in later.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sat, 11/19/2011 - 22:45.

I live with a roommate who is now living with a felony on his record, because at 18 he had sex with a girl who was just shy of 16. My suggestion to anyone and everyone, avoid anyone under 18, unless you too are under 18. It simply isn't worth the risk!

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