I am 15 years old and going into 11th grade. My boyfriend just turned 18 and just graduated highschool. We have been going out for 4 months now. But we have no intention on having sex before i turn 17. His mother is very nervous because she thinks that i could "cry rape" and that he could go to jail on the spot. I would never do that, but she is afraid that i might. How much are we allowed to do at our ages? Does his mom have the right to prevent him from seeing me? And could he get in trouble that easily if i "cried rape" even though we have never had sex? And if he got arrested could that ruin his future teaching career because he would be labeled as a child molester, even though he obviously isn't?

A 15 year old and an 18 year old dating, require the consent of the 15 year old's parents. Any sexual contact between the 18 year old and the 15 year old would NOT be legal.

New York Penal Code § Section 130 sex offenses

§ 130.05 Lack of Consent
A person is deemed incapable of consent when he or she is less than 17 years old.

§ 130.20 Sexual misconduct. A person is guilty of sexual misconduct when: 1. He or she engages in sexual intercourse with another person without such person's consent; or 2. He or she engages in oral sexual conduct or anal sexual conduct with another person without such person's consent; or 3. He or she engages in sexual conduct with an animal or a dead human body. Sexual misconduct is a class A misdemeanor.

What this means is, that if a person under 17 says yes to sexual conduct or intercourse, under the law they are not capable of giving consent therefore, there is NO consent.

How much are we allowed to do at our ages?
No sexual contact.

New York Penal code defines sexual contact as: Any touch of the sexual or other intimate parts of a person not married to the actor for the purpose of gratifying sexual desires of either party. This includes, the touching of the actor by the victim, or the touching of the victim by the actor whether directly or through clothing.

Kissing, holding hands, embracing; these would be legal.

Does his mom have the right to prevent him from seeing me?
Legally, he is now an adult. That doesn't necessarily preclude his mother from finding a way to seperate you. It just means he answers to the adult legal system now and parental control has been released from a legal standpoint.

And could he get in trouble that easily if i "cried rape" even though we have never had sex? If a person cries rape and it is proven there is no rape, that person can be charged criminally with filing a false police report, as well as, sued civily. It's a serious crime with serious consequences.

And if he got arrested could that ruin his future teaching career because he would be labeled as a child molester, even though he obviously isn't? He would probably not be labeled a child molester given his age and your age; however, the situation you described has certainly happened in reality to others and yes, it does destoy lives and futures.