I think that anything should be allowed, with parents consent. If the parent thinks their child is mature enough for the relationship, so be it.

I feel legal age of consent should start at 15...It they are responsible to be allowed behind the wheel of a car then they should be allowed to make other decisions like consenting to sex. The Law givens them the right to go to their doctor to get on birth control without the consent of the parent so who says a 15 year old boy or girl can not consent to sex? The law is a double standard in my book!Boys and girls that are older are getting wrongfully prosecuted in the state of Oregon because Oregon has gone way overboard! This is a normal act among teenagers..It is one thing is a boy or girl is forced but if they agree to it then is should be allowed. It is not fair that the justice system says that a child the age of 15 is not capable of making that decision, I would like to know who gave them that information and if that person should be considered incompetent for making such an obsurd statement. A 15 year old boy or girl is more than capable of constenting to anything they do in life.

Concerned Parent

If i am 16 and my boyfriend is 26 Can statutory rape be declared if the legal age of consent in oklahoma is 16?

I believe that the age of consent should vary with the individual. There are tons of sexually, mentally, and emotionally mature 12 year olds out there, and there are plenty of completely and utterly immature people in their twenties. I think that a better system is needed to figure out if it should be legal for a person to have sex.

Okay so I think the legal age of consent should be 18 but only in application to those much older than them. My sister was 16 when a 34 year old man seduced and almost raped her using tricks and lies. But because she was 16 in our state it was legal because 16 is the age of consent here. So although I don't think 16 year olds should be having sex, I think it should be legal for them too. However I don't think that it should legal for man or woman who is significantly older than the teen to have sex with them, as the adult is usually much more experienced and I would consider it almost rape because a teen is often defenseless against their logic and manipulation. However, the 17 year old who wants to have sex with the 16 year old? They are on even grounds of of ignorance and equal footing usually. I don't personally believe teens are ready for sex, but we can't stop them and it's perfectly natural and can even be a wonderful thing if done in a safe way. So I guess in the end the consent law shouldn't have an age for when it's okay to have sex, but should instead be revised to relflect the growing social gap between younger and older groups. As in I don't think the 19 year should legally be allowed to have sex with the 15 year old either because of the difference in maturity. If that makes any sense..

Age of consent and statutory rape laws depress me to no end..

At the end of 21, I was a complete virgin who had almost never dated. I was determined to wait for someone I felt right about. While my friends in high school were busy getting their members sucked and then acting like they never knew them, I was painfully careful to so much as turn a girl wanting to go on a date down to harshly, to be real careful with their feelings, and to not have sex because, seeing as how I would want someone to wait and have devotion to me, I considered it would be bad faith in your future partner to just have sex and then if they waited for you, be all like "oops, too bad." Not to mention using other people's future lovers just for sex, even if THEY wait.

And likewise throughout college.

At 21 I began to lose hope though, and realized I was getting to old, and for all my patience, the only thing I get in return is to miss out on things like having sex with a virgin, or having a high-school sweetheart, relationships, dating, sex, all that. I waited all that time and for nothing. Every girl around just sucks off guys and doesn't care, and I'm supposed to wait all that time so I can be with some girl who's done everything with everyone else.

Forget that.

So basically, I found myself in a position of either painfully forcing myself to start having at least a little sex, or be alone for the rest of my life in my jealousy that would prevent me from ever being with someone. (or hold out in the chance of someone who's very inexperienced coming along, yeah - fat chance.)

As such, I wanted someone less experienced to have a relationship with, so that I can at least try to salvage my life and have my first real relationship and sex not be with someone who's done it all.

So I got interested in a 17 year old, when I was 21.

To put this in even more perspective - she was the one that coerced me. And she did it a lot. I never initiated conversation even. And I talked to her for months and months.

Let's put this into even more perspective - It turns out, as I found later, she was an absolute... how do I put this... "extremely promiscuous female"

I cared about her, but in the after it all, it became apparent that she was TOTALLY planning on taking my virginity - that I had waited so long and turned down so many people to preserve, just hoping I could at least salvage it and make it a good first time - and then boosting her ego with it as one of the many boys she f--ked and then never seeing me again.

And I guess I'm the big monster predator and she's the innocent victim prey, right?

Fortunately, no, I didn't end up having sex or playing around with her.. not because she was 17, but because I found out she had a boyfriend still, that I thought she had previously broken up with.

BUT I JUST AS WELL COULD HAVE, in different circumstances.

And then what? A self-righteous mother that wants to string up any guy that touches her daughter? 5-10 years in prison? A courtroom looking at me condemning me as a rapist and giving me no chance to speak story?

And just to think that I would have had no interest in her had I just been selfish like my friends and let the girls in high school give me oral sex, when I was in high school, and then treat them like dirt, and have an average sex life throughout.

But that's what you get for being intelligent, patient, and considerate, right?

I can't begin to tell you what I would do if I had had sex and was thrown in prison. I very much doubt I would be alive today. And of course Chris Hansen goes around feeling all self-righteous over this sort of thing, yet nevermind my ruined life, only a 16-year olds matters. And nevermind all the people in the world using each other, manipulating, cheating, stealing 20 or 30-some-year-olds virginities for their own ego and then dumping them in the morning. That's all ok. That's legal.

I strongly suspect all you Christians out there getting all mad and wanting laws to be as harsh as possible are just people who had stupid sex when you were young, and now that you're older and under the fear of religion, you want to castrate anyone for whatever you consider taboo, and you want to demonize older guys for having sex with younger girls because you can't handle the truth of the far worse thing you are. Getting mad about teen sex and trying to string up anyone you can without giving them a fair view is NOT HELPING and does NOT MAKE YOU RIGHTEOUS. It makes you a horrible, merciless person. What does your religions say? He who is without sin may cast the first stone?

I'm not saying there shouldn't be laws about this sort of thing. But they are way too rigid, in many places too severe, and way too generalized. They only account for the average kind of person, who has sex their whole life - in which case, I would say, yeah, you've been having sex for fun your whole life, you shouldn't get off the hook for having sex with someone not mature enough. But even then, the age is too high, and the penalties are too harsh.

I'm sure there have been plenty of guys with a story exactly like my own that did end up having sex, and paid for it.

The laws were written by the average people that don't consider the fact that not everyone is having sex their whole life like they are, keeping up with the score, ready for their age group, and rotten for trying to coerce someone much younger. The laws are made in the image of a bunch of average psycho puritans, running from the selfish monsters they really are. It's people like them that have people running rampant with selfish, endless sex. And they won't consider the fact that when someone's a virgin, it becomes very hard for them to use someone, even if they try! It doesn't even make sense to me. How could I have been?

And BTW, there was no sex revolution. You Christian so called "Family Values" people need to get your head out of the sand. Read some history books and autobiographies, learn about the times. I've read a few from 1900-1940. If they are any indication, random, unconstrained sex was even way more rampant than today. There has always been prostitution, how do you think that got there if there wasn't a very large amount of indiscriminate sex going on between a very large percent of the people? People have always been how they are today, as the same psychological creatures they are. To think that the sex habits of today were invented in the sixties is just infantile!

Stop being afraid of and acting out of your hellfire religion and ruining people's lives in your self-righteousness, and start practicing human compassion, understanding, selflessness.

IN NEBRASKA AT WHAT AGE IS CONSENT.. MY QUESTION IS IF A BOY IS 16 CAN HE HAVE SEX WITHA GIRL YOUNGER THAN 16 ..
I THINK NOT BUT WOULD LIKE TO KNOW FOR SURE.
MY SON & I ARE HAVING THIS DISCUSSION CAN SOME ONE PLEASE ADVISE ME OR THE LAW..

It should definitely be 18 as well as we need to teach that there is no such thing as a "technical" virgin. I'm a Family and Consumer Science major who wants to be a sex-ed teacher. Although I do not believe that Sex should be a taboo, because it's a natural thing, I also do not believe CHILDREN should be having sex. I am currently taking a human sexuality class, my professor has written our textbook (the most current human sexuality text book as of now) Think: Human Sexuality (I also took her human development class).
I Think it's a huge problem when it comes to young people having sex. Kids, 11 years old, are having anal sex and there is an increase in arm-pit herpes. We are also talking about the judgment part of the brain and how it is not fully developed until around the age 25. Therefore anyone under that age are more likely to have unprotected sex. They also are not capable of taking care of a child at ages 12,13,14,15,16...etc. HOWEVER I'm not trying to stereotype I know a couple people who have had kids at age 16/17 who are great parents...BUT the majority of teens are not prepared for this.

I could seriously go on and on and on about this and there are many, many more reasons why we should not allow 12,13,14,15,16 etc year olds to have sex. It's not about trust, it's not about privacy, it's not about who is "older for their age, it's about their HEALTH and SAFETY and it's very important to keep kids from growing up TOO FAST. I think that is MORE important then anything in the world. It has nothing to do with MORALS. Just because you are a sexual being does NOT mean you don't have morals. THAT IS FALSE.

I was considered "old for my age" however, I knew that I wanted to wait until I was out of high school, and I wanted to wait until I knew I was truly in love before. Not because of my morals not because my parents didn't trust me but because I didn't want to contract an STD and I did not want to have a child at such a young age. And besides, I was willing to wait until I found a guy who was willing to wait with me. That is the true test of a faithful partner. <3

Can ihave sex after I turn18 with my boyfriend whose not 17 till 6 months
after my 18th birthday?

okkayy! so,
if i'm old enough to get married when i'm young && take care of my own then why can't i date who i want?!
if i old enough to sign my name up to the armed forces and take a chance to lose my life why can't i date who i want?!
if i old enough to get a job and take care myself, my family and p[ay bills why can't i date who i want?!
i don't understand how ppl expect you to take on all these responablities and not feel grown. you doing the exact samething an adult is they just happen to be born before you!
i think the age of consent should be 16!

Ok, first off, whose business is it besides the party having intercourse?
And second, when has telling somebody what they can and cannot do worked out?(offlimits = so much more appealing)
Enough said.
Oh, and P.S. sex is embedded in our brains! You can't prevent it so why not inform people? It shouldn't be a big taboo, it's just a fact of life.

i think that the age should be 12 because 12 year olds have already gone through puberty and most of them are mature enough to know to use protection and not to have sex with a person that is really old or really young

Given the proper sex education, probably should be better than it is now, the age should be 13 or 14. I mean, come on, seriously? Most people go through puberty years before this age, and I know how much it sucks to want to do something with this object between your legs (of either gender) but have no legal right to do it. Humans go through puberty at a young age for a reason, and puberty is the start where your body says "I'm ready for sex". It sucks to be this horny little dude and not be able to do anything for years legally. Rather than blame the kids, blame the sex education classes for not giving the kids enough information, or not handing out condoms and birth control pills (if they aren't already). I'm 18 and still a virgin, but I have conducted in foreplay with my also-virgin girlfriend who's 17. Until we conducted in foreplay one night, my sex drive was admittedly par or lower because I'd never done ANYTHING sexual before so I didn't know what to think about it. I mean, of course I had the urge to, I just wasn't able to rid myself of that urge until recently. And I'll admit, both our sex drives have skyrocketed since we conducted foreplay, but we cannot engage in sex because her parents are whackos and say "no boyfriend until you're 18". I think it's ridiculous that the government could get so into our own personal lives when they aren't really protecting anyone. Teens are going to have sex as soon as they hit puberty, the only thing the laws do is punish people for it who get caught. And my girlfriend's mother was so ready to ruin this young man's life, part of which includes my planned career in the military, all because of something so harmless and natural as sex. It's really starting to sound like the justice system is more jealous of teens than they are actually concerned for our well being.

I believe if two people are mature enough to have consentual sex, they shouldn't have to worry about their age. Yes there are many young teens around 13 or 14 who are not mature enough and do not understand why sex is such a big deal, but perhaps schools should provide them with a better sex ed class. If teens are better educated about sex, then they can make better decissions about it. In such a class, teens should be taught about STDs, types of birth control and protection, and laws regarding sex. This could help decrease the spread of STDs as well as the rate of teen pregnancy.

I think doctors should find a way to surgically remove penis's and vaginas until you are proven capable to carry children. So i deem the age 30 years

I started having intercourse at the age of 16 but was active sexually way before that age.

At that age do you think did I once stop and said to myself...hey what is the age of consent in my state: NO I DID NOT!

At that age you are raging hormones and any chance that you get to have sex with someone you "like" is a go!

As I am older now I feel different.

But seriously: Who is gonna stop Lolita and Jack from having sex if they want to?

Parents? yeh that's gonna happen!

What it comes down to is that I could have ruined my life when I was having threesomes with a couple of 15 year olds at the age of 16! Luckily that did not happen!

So I say that as long as you are a minor and have sex with a minor, and the age difference is not too much...say three years...it should be legal!

After all...why should the law be involved in two peoples private life!!!

Specially if they are in a relationship which half the time does lead into a sexual relationship!

Of course there will always be extreme cases...and it is only then that a foreign party should be involved!
I also feel that only the parties involved should be able to initiate these proceedings! (...not the parents/teachers or whomever else that may feel that they are in the wrong for having sex!)

Just keep it real folks: How can you possibly legislate a natural phenomenon such as this? (...You might have better luck trying to legislate the weather!)

...Stop being "politically correct" or let your "superstitions" and you priests dictate your values and beliefs...what should and should not be!

This is life and if one decides they are ready and willing then nothing can stop them...You can't command a teenager you can only persuade! ...or scare! (Even then they will still do it!)

So there you have it!

I think the age of conesnt should be 16, as said previously, most 16 year olds are completely able to make there own decisions. I was 14 when i lost my virginty, which was horrible and i would take it back in a heartbeat, but its going to happen. the girls these days are getting younger and younger, but at 14 i did DECIDE that i wanted to have sex. it wasnt with the guy im going to end up with in 10 years, but he made me happy at the time. Now i am 16 and i know who i do or do not want to have sex with. You dont need to be 18 to decide whether you want to have sex with a 16 year old or a 35 year old. But at 14 you can be manipulated very easily, so i would definately say 16. I am not saying 16 only because i am 16, i am just tired of these ridiculous statutory rape cases that were completely consensual and these men and women are being prosecuted. Its complete bull in all honesty. but these 14 year old girls on this site saying 14 14 PLEASE PLEASE MAKE IT 14! BECAUSE IM 14! Those are the kind of comments that are going to make the age of consent 21.

so please stop with the ludocris comments.

i am so sick of ppl saying you have to b 16 to have sex... i think it should b biased on maturity not age, if they say you cant put a price on love y should they put an age on it?

so where i live at the moment it is 16

my boyfriend is 17 and i'm 14, he is 18 before im 15 so it is just over a three year age gap. my parents dont know im with him because i think that they will freak, they dont like me having a boyfriend at all.

I love my boyfriend and he loves me so much. we have never mentioned sex, if any of our friends mentioned it he always said no i respect her too much. he just asked me tonight how far i have ever gone and he found out im a virgin. he had changed his tone in voice before and after this i could tell something was bothering him. he said that he loves me so much and would never force me but it was up to me and to tell him if i didnt want it. but the truth is is that i have never loveed anyone as much as i do him but he said hes scared that if we break up id go to the police because of the age... he cought me offguard saying it caus i mean yes i had thought about it sometime in the future and i had been thinking the last few days that i would love to lose my verginity to him. its the reasin why im on here. Is it really that bad if we love eachother and use prtection? i have put alot of thought into it and in my opinion at the age of 14 you are mature enough to make your own decisions.

at age 14 now cus as this gurl said now younger girls are having sex and when u r caught and that guy goes to jail its heartbreakin and how about if u love that guy u may even think about suicudel and i still doo but i would do it cus i know that i still have a life infront of me... sometimes u just dont have sex jus for pleasure u can even do it cuase ur in love with that person the guy i gave my everything to IGNACIO L****** that he is now al over the news is being acused as SEX OFFENDER CAUSE HE SUPPOSELY RAPED ME but he didnt actually he treated me with respect throughtout our relationship thats what kills me that he is being acused as rapist but if the age was 14 everythign would be differnent... cause that laws cant stop us girls when we are inlove with the perosn u give our everytign too..

in my opionon i think the consensual sex age should be 16... in colorado where i am from. at 16 you can get a job and your driving permit. i dont see how sex is any worse then making you own decisions like where to work or even driving, you can cause more harm by gettin in a wreck than you could having a relationship with someone older... i am 16 and i think i am old enough to make my own dicisions, i like this guy who is 24. and i dont see why age is such a problem... we are all ppl. we are all equal, and i think that if i make the dicision of having sex that neither me or him could get in trouble, i am responsible. and my parents said i could be with him. when my parents got together my mom was 16 my dad was 27, i dont see what the problem is. i have been in so many bad situations like been offered drugs like weed, coke, meth, alcohol. and im smart enough to say no to something i dont want. im smart enough to deside for myself if im ready to have sex. im not planning on having unprotected sex. i am on the pill and me and him like eachother alot. we've been friends for a year and i think if we want to move forward we should be able to. i am not planning on having kids till im out of college and have a stable life for myself... so i dont see why i cant decide for myself to have sex.

when i was 14 i met a guy who was 25 at the time. we are crazy in love!!!. i am now 15, turning 16 in november. he is turning 26 tomorrow. we cant even go out because we are both scared of what people might say and think. Many people that know us, know whats going on. My mother knows, and she's actually ok with it. but... he is scared and so am i that maybe one day someone might open their mouth and say something. Him and i havent done anything sexual. he respects me and i do the same. we just want to be together and be able to go out without worrying about the rest of the world............ PLEASE... I need help and advice. He is so scared and paranoid that he says we have to wait 2 more years until i yurn 18 so we can be together. BUT ISNT IT OK FOR ME TO BE WITH HIM AT 16, HIM 26. WITHOUT HAVING SEX?????

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